As many of you know, my brother passed away a little over a year ago. It has been a huge adjustment for my kiddos and myself. You can read about our journey here, here, here, and here.
When Pumpkin was upset one day, I kept asking her what was wrong and she couldn’t put it into words and finally, she pointed to the sky and said Uncle Russell. Peanut tells me all the time that he speaks and prays with Uncle Russell and he will ask me questions about him. I try as hard as I can to be honest with him about death and supportive for what I believe is appropriate for a six almost seven year old to know and feel.
My biggest frustration about the situation is just trying to help the kiddos learn to adapt and cope. We created a Heaven phone, using an old cell phone that I had laying around.
The kiddos can call and talk to their Uncle anytime they want.
I love when I walk into their playroom and they have put Uncle Russell on speaker and they are playing games with him or singing him songs.
At first I was so nervous about whether this would hurt their healing ability or whether or not I was encouraging something that wouldn’t help them understand about death; but from seeing their reaction and how the tears have slowed down I realized that this has been a great tool for them to use and I am glad that they have a way that they feel can help them stay in touch with their Uncle.
My favorite part about the phone, is hearing them say “See you Later Alligator, and talk with you soon. All the Numbers all the Time”
All the numbers All the time is our family motto, you can read about that here and the story behind the reason we say it.